I’ve always felt that there was something that I should be doing.Something that would make an impact, help people, change lives.But I could never figure it out.I tried and tried to find out what it was.I tried several businesses that were supposed to help myself and others get free, but I was a dismal failure at each and every one and I never felt I was really helping anyone or doing anything that would make a difference.With each business failure, I sank deeper and deeper in depression, believing that maybe this was all there was for me.Nothing special – special was only for special people – not me.
Then about 2 years ago in desperation, I finally decided that maybe I didn’t know everything, and maybe there was something to all this Personal Development stuff I kept hearing about.I started to pay attention and to read and listen and attend some calls and some seminars.I started to look at myself from the inside out.I started to practice visualization and believing in myself and what I learned about the universe and life and myself and why I am the way I am was nothing short of amazing.However head knowledge is quite a different thing than knowing it in your heart and your gut.
The stuff I learned made sense, but most of the practices and techniques I learned were either difficult or boring or repetitious or too time consuming or you had to set aside special quiet time (where my family of 6 and 2 dogs left me alone – Ha, Ha, Ha), or they were just not convincing.I consciously knew that I needed to change the way I thought, the way I focused on my goals or nothing was ever going to change, but the work was a lot harder than I thought it would be.I kept asking “HOW, HOW, HOW do I change?”
I remember thinking early on that there must be a better way that isn’t so hard.Wouldn’t it be great to find a way to help make these deep changes without having to be so darned disciplined all the time?I’d tried any number of techniques and practices and spent a good deal of money in the process and I still wasn’t any closer to making the changes I wanted to make.I got really, really, really depressed.I mean lying on the floor, boo- hooing, sobbing “What is wrong with me?” kind of depressed.This went on for awhile until one day I just took a stand against my depression and said “NO damn it.I’m not going to let this win.Right here, right now, in this very moment, I CHOOSE to be happy – Do you hear me?I CHOOSE to be happy, right here, right now!”
And from that, a little tune popped into my head
Right here and now
I am happy
Don’t cha know?
I’ve been set free
I started singing it over and over again and again and again.Day after day.It wasn’t work.It had gotten stuck in my head and I just kept singing it. And I suddenly realized that I wasn’t so depressed any more.I felt better than I had in a long time so I kept on singing.Shortly after that, it dawned on me that maybe this was it.Maybe this was the better way for me to change.It was fun and easy.I started to make up all kinds of little jingles for myself for different things I was feeling.I shared them with my daughter and one day she said “Mom, what if these could make other people feel better the way they’ve made you feel better?”And then I suddenly realized that maybe this was not only the better way for me to make the changes I needed to make – maybe this was the something I’d always felt I should be doing.Maybe other people would be able to benefit and use these little jingles to help them change as well.
That’s what started it all.Was it all a piece of cake to bring this idea, this dream to fruition from that moment on?Not hardly.It’s been a labor of love and that always means putting yourself out there and subject to criticism and there are always people ready to do just that.It’s been a lot of ups and downs and work and frustration and you name it.All the stuff it takes to build your dream.But through it all, I’ve just kept singing and singing and singing and now I offer this to you with the truest of hope that you too will use these to change the way you think and act and follow your dreams.
Over the last several years, I’ve been studying just about everything I could get my hands on in the Personal Development arena. One of the most important things I’ve learned from everyone from James Ray, Jack Canfield, Joe Vitale, Bob Doyle, Sandy Forster, Bob Proctor and many more is that if you focus on what you want and persistently and consistently tell yourself that you have these things, you will come to Believe it. Once you Believe it, then you will be inspired to take the actions you need to take that will bring what you want to you. Hence the saying, “When I Believe it, I will See it”.
When it comes to the way our brains learn things, REPETITION is key. Think about it – how did you learn your times tables in 5th grade math – repetition. How does an actor learn his lines – repetition. How did we all learn to walk and talk – repetition. So it stands to reason that if you want your mind to believe in a different way than it currently believes, you are going to have to teach it how to think that way by repeating what youwant to believe.
Great…that makes sense. The more you repeat something, the quicker your subconscious should start to agree with you. So in comes Affirmations. Affirmations are just statements about what you WANT to believe. They are touted by just about every self help expert as the way to “Fake it til you make it”, because essentially you are just repeating over and over what you desire to believe.
OK, that makes sense too. If we all keep repeating affirmations, we’ll all be rich and happy, right? Sounds simple enough. So then……. Why aren’t we all rich and happy? Because we DON’T KEEP DOING THEM!! I certainly have tried many times. I’ve written impassioned affirmations, I’ve recorded them, I’ve done Power affirmations, I’ve listened to meditation CD’s with affirmations, subliminal affirmations, affirmations with binaural beats…I’ve done it all. But every time, after a week or two, the time required to continue to do these became a chore – I just didn’t Believe what I was telling myself and I couldn’t see anything changing so I would stop doing them. I think this is what happens to a lot of people. But it’s really not your fault, at least not your conscious minds fault.
You see, your unconscious mind or your ego can be your worst enemy. It likes you just the way you are – warts and all. It doesn’t see any need to change, it hates change and when you are trying to change by stating things like “I am wealthy, healthy and happy”, the unconscious “Belief Detective” I call it, immediately responds with “No, we’re not. We’re broke and depressed and I think we’re coming down with the flu. Besides, this is SOOOO boring”. If you can’t get past that “Belief Detective”, or at least realize what is going on, your unconscious mind will win and keep you broke, sick and depressed. Ironically, this is how it thinks it is protecting you. Gee, Thanks!!
Furthermore, many teachers have also taught that what we think about predominantly is what we get. The more you can focus on what you want to have in your life, the quicker it will come to you. If you can focus on it with emotion and feeling, so much the better. Dr. Robert Anthony (Secret of Deliberate Creation) teaches that what you need to do, more than anything is find a way to Flip the Switch when you find yourself thinking a negative thought, or one of doubt or worry or fear. Just Flip Switch he calls it. My first reaction when hearing that was “So, HOW THE HECK do I do that?” I understand the need to keep positive, but how do you change in the moment – in the NOW – from fear and doubt to happiness and joy. That’s the 64 bazillion dollar question. It’s almost like you need to actually have a Switch implanted that you can reach out and Flip at will. Hmmmm…
Well, that’s where these AttitudeZapz! come in. Have you ever heard a tune on the way into work or have you seen some silly commercial on TV and the tune has stuck in your head all day long no matter what you did? We all do that. It’s just stuck there and you can’t get it out.
Sooo…What if that tune that was stuck in your head was an affirmation jingle? What if it was fun and catchy and a no-brainer? You don’t have to stop and take time to write affirmation statements10 times. You don’t have to stop and take time to read them or listen to them. You don’t have to stop and take time to meditate on them by listening to a CD or subliminals or anything (although all of these things are good and will definitely work, we just WON’T DO THEM). It’s already stuck there in your head like a secret weapon.
All you need to do is listen to the jingle a few times, catch the wave and get it stuck in your head and it stays with you all day long. You walk down the hall at work and sing your Zapz! You are struggling with a problem and while you’re thinking you sing your Zapz! You are cooking dinner or changing a diaper or paying your bills – and you are singing your Zapz!. You are depressed about something and you suddenly remember that you need to be present in the Here and Now, so you JUST Flip the Switch by singing your Zapz! And here is the best part, when was the last time your “Belief Detective” made a stink about song lyrics? No arguments, the affirmations just seep into your unconscious little by little, smile by smile, Zapz! by Zapz!
Welcome to my blog. Here you will find the musings of myself and many others concerning the topics of attitude, affirmations, beliefs, manifestation, law of attraction, The Secret and getting what you want out of life. There is a saying that goes “If you are not growing, you are dying.” Those are your only two choices, so I for one want to continue to grow and learn everything I can about these topics and more. I’m not a prolific writer, but I will post here when I feel that there is something worth getting out there. I hope you find some worthy material here.
